“Our eyes are not viewers; they are also projectors that are running a second story over the picture that we see in front of us all the time. Fear is writing that script. Now fear is going to be a player in your life. You get to decide how much. You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts, worrying about the pathway to the future, but all there will ever be is what’s happening here, and the decisions we make in this moment which are based in either love or fear.”

- Jim Carrey’s Secret of Life

LOVING YOURSELF

Dr. Margaret Paul said... :

What does Loving our self means?

I read all book, been search anywhere, but still didnt get the way, and the how

I had a glimpse of it, awareness of that, but it still on and off

until I know what is it means of loving my self 

it really challenging especially if you have a partner's , at least its challenging when you lose the awareness of love for a while 

Relationships trigger everything that is unhealed in us - everything that prevents us from loving ourselves and others- giving us the opportunity to heal our fears and false beliefs.

and the most common cause is self - abandonment

Loving Yourself Means….

• Attending, moment-by-moment, to your own feelings, so that you know immediately when you are abandoning yourself with self-judgment, addictions, staying in your head, or making someone else responsible for you.

• Compassionately opening to learning about your own fears and beliefs that may be causing your self-abandonment, and open to learning about what it means to be present and loving to yourself in the face of life’s challenges.

• Exploring your limiting beliefs and resulting behavior that may be causing your painful feelings.

• Opening to your higher self for information about the truth regarding your beliefs, and the loving action toward yourself.

• Taking loving action in your own behalf, based on truth rather than on false, limiting beliefs.

• Evaluating how you feel as a result of taking loving care of yourself.

Letting Others Off The Hook

How are others let off the hook when you love yourself? Let us count the ways!

• Others don’t need to read your mind when you are meeting many of your own needs, and asking outright when there is something you need help with.

• Others don’t need to hold back, be careful, or walk on eggshells when you are taking care of your own feelings.

• Others can receive great joy in giving to you when they don’t feel obligated.

• Others can speak their truth when they know that you are open to learning and wanting to grow. They can be honest when they know that you will deal with your own feelings rather than blame them.

• Others are free to take loving care of themselves when they know you are doing the same, and that you support them in their highest good as part of being loving to yourself.

• Others can be spontaneous with you, knowing that if they ‘make a mistake’ you will take responsibility for your own feelings about it.

• Others feel free to be with you because they want to, not because they feel they have to.

• In a primary relationship, your partner will likely feel attracted to you when you are coming from your power rather than from your fear. If your partner feels obligated to have sex with you because you have made him or her responsible for your happiness and sense of worth, your partner is likely to feel resistant to sex with you.

• Laughter, fun and play flow spontaneously when neither person feels responsible for the other’s feelings, or feels obligated to spend time, give approval or have sex

• Each person feels free to pursue their passion and purpose, knowing that their partner is taking care of themselves and not waiting for the other person to make them happy.

Loving partnerships are about learning, growing, and sharing love and companionship. They are not about taking responsibility for making the other person feel happy, safe, secure or validated. Paradoxically, when you fully take on the responsibility of making yourself feel happy, safe, secure and validated, a loving relationship supports and enhances these wonderful feelings. But when you expect your partner to do this for you, then your self-abandonment creates your misery, insecurity and lack of self-worth. As long as you are abandoning yourself and expecting your partner to do for you what only you can do for yourself, your partner’s love will never be enough to give you the happiness, safety, security and sense of worth that you seek.

A soul mate is a, well it’s like a best friend, but more. It’s the one person in the whole world that knows you better than you know yourself. It’s someone who makes you a better person. Well, actually, they don’t make you a better person. You do that yourself, because they inspire you. A soul mate is someone who you carry with you forever. It is the one person who knew you but yet, still accepted you & believed in you, before anyone else did, or when no one else would. And no matter what happens, you’ll always love them -Anonymous

You’re probably thinking I’ve forgotten all about you by now, but that’s far from it. I have missed you ever waking day, and my heart still hurts, but I’m getting better. I continue to smile and still go on without you. I know I have missed you, but I have kept it all inside me, only for me to know. I still wonder about your doings, how you are, what you’re doing, what we used to talk about, to laugh in your voice. Just, everything. I miss it all. However, I feel that the parting of us was for the best, because everything happens for a reason. Should destiny put us into a crossing road in the future, that is when I will see you again. Until then, remember this: no matter what, even through the screaming fights, the disagreements, mistakes and the tears we’ve cried, never, ever did I give up on you. So if you ever need a helping hand, do not hesitate to ask. I may be far away, but I will always be in reach.
—  (via thelovewhisperer)

I W I S H

I wish that I had never met you.

Then there would’ve been no need to impress you. No need to want you. No need for loving you. No need for crying over you. No need for pain or tears. No need to be disappointed over undelivered promises. No need to be upset over rejected hugs. No need to pretend like you care. No need, for everything you’ve done, to make me feel like absolutely nothing.

But then again, I’m glad I did meet you. Cos you were the one who always asked me if anything was wrong. You were the one who loved me for me. The one who cared when everyone else didn’t. The one who listened. The one who stayed up late just to talk about the most random shit ever. You were the one who kept my secrets. The one who taught me new things. The one who laughed at my bad jokes. The one who did things, just for me.

“Life doesn’t always introduce you to the people you want to meet. Sometimes, life puts you in touch with the people you need to meet to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to gradually strengthen you into the person you were meant to become.”

Sweat It Out Playlist

Alright I do love running recently I dunno beside "Run for Love" it really fun to do some sweat eventhough I dont running fast but I enjoy every step along away 

And it was sunday morning I actually made appointment with someone special but as usual we seldom met in sunday morning because he always running pretty fast, so I decided to  running with my annoyingly lovable sister, we were not intend to do gymnastic as usual sunday routine since this month ...and when we were reverse direction my sister saw him and she was trying to call him(guy that I adore)

oh my god, such a shame... and he didn't stop, yeah he can't stop when he's running I understand that ..so I chased him and finally we met, such a beautiful day I guess ..

My annoyingly lovable sister 

I know, it’s a bit strange to enjoy breathless agony. But the breathless agony leads to this high euphoric feeling when it’s over.

And start from today I decide to make some goal,  from small step actually hahaha 

I intend to running everyday before I start my day, I know I can do it "bismillaahi"

The most important thing to boost willingness to run, and make it enjoyable activity is 

Blast some fast beats. Fast music = faster running. For me anyways! Oh and I totally need a new music mix...

I'm still rocking the same mix from last week! it's driving me INSANE

Here's my current workout playlist that I've been rocking to lately :

1. "This is How We Do It" Montell Jordan

2. "Broken Hearted" Karmin

3. "Live it Up"  Jennifer Lopez&Pitbull

4. "Girl On fire" Alicia Keys

5. "Domino" Jessie J

6. "Play Hard" David Gueta,Neyo&Akon

7. " The Other Side" Jason Derulo

8. "On The Floor" JLOFeat Pitbull

9. "Love Somebody" Maroon5

10. "Love You Like A love song" Selena Gomez

11. "Easy(RadioEdit)" Porter Robinson&MattZo

12. "A Little party never killed anybody" Fergie,Qtip&Goonrock

13. "Tonight I'm getting over you(remix" CarlyRae Jepsen&Nick Minaj

I'm pretty sure i'll be sick of this list by the end of the week, but knowing me i'll probably 

listen to it until October slowly driving myself insane a bit more each day. That's how playlist work, right?

SATURDAY AEROBIC

Saturday, 28th of september 

I had been running on and off since this month, but I never understood why anyone could enjoy 30 minutes of breathless agony. What kind of strange people were they, I would wonder.

but hmmm because there is guy that I adore so much remind me to running to be healthy and lose some weight 
I become motivated beside I'm really happy because I can running with him awww sound sweet

but today I'm not running with him because I wasn't text him at night to make appointment 
so my dear friend anie accompanied me to do some sweat, this time we were not running but bicycle and  a gymnastics at summarecon (cool place near myhouse) and it was great time I should say

15 Reasons to Use Apple Cider Vinegar Every Day

Apple cider vinegar is my new obsession. I recently began taking apple cider vinegar shots 2-3 times a day for a quick and effective energy burst. However, looking deeper into the product, I have discovered so many other useful ways to incorporate apple cider vinegar into a daily repertoire. It is effective for pretty much anything – your skin, your hair, your house, and even your pets can benefit from its qualities. Raw, organic, unfiltered and unpasteurized, apple cider vinegar is so much more than a salad dressing! 

1. Apple cider vinegar is a completely natural product. It is made from apple juice and is fermented to hard apple cider. It is then fermented a second time to apple cider vinegar. When using natural apple cider vinegar, we instantly decrease the consumption of unnatural chemicals in our homes and daily lives. 

2. Apple cider vinegar can be used as a rinse for your hair after shampooing, and will aid in increased body and shine. I recommend recycling an old shampoo bottle, then filling it with 1/2 a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and a cup of cold water. Pour the solution through your hair after shampooing several times a week for dramatic results. 

3. Natural apple cider vinegar regulates the pH of your skin. Dilute apple cider vinegar with two parts water, and spread the concoction over your face with a cotton ball to replace your current toner. You can do this at night after washing, and in the morning before you apply your moisturizer. A dab of apple cider vinegar can also be left on the skin overnight to fade age spots or acne scars.

It is also a recommended agent for warts. For warts, soak a cotton ball in apple cider vinegar, then fasten the cotton ball over the wart with a Band-Aid overnight. The skin may swell some as it reacts with the solution. However, the wart will fall off. Once it falls off, the treatment should be continued for a few more days, to make sure the wart doesn't return. 

4. Apple cider vinegar can help remove stains from teeth. Rub teeth directly with apple cider vinegar, and rinse out with water.

5. Add a cup of apple cider vinegar to your bath, and soak for 10 minutes to eliminate discomfort from sunburn.

6. Apple Cider vinegar can be used as a natural aftershave. Fill a bottle with equal parts apple cider vinegar and water, and shake before applying to the face. 

7. Rubbing apple cider vinegar on your hands and feet will give massage-like benefits and relief to tired hands and feet. 

8. Apple cider vinegar can aid in weight loss. For daily weight management, add 2 teaspoons of apple cider vinegar to 16 ounces of water. This concoction can be sipped throughout the day. Data shows some limited, yet significant, weight loss benefits from sustained daily intake of acetic acid (which is a main ingredient in apple cider vinegar).

In a 2009 study published in Bioscience, Biotechnology, and Biochemistry, it was found that subjects that consumed acetic acid for 12 weeks experienced significant declines in body weight, abdominal fat, waist circumference and triglycerides. Triglycerides contribute to the bad cholesterol that we want to avoid.

9. Apple cider vinegar will balance your entire inner body system. The body constantly strives to achieve a state of equilibrium. Apple cider vinegar helps the body maintain a healthy alkaline pH level. Research shows that higher acid levels (lower pH level) leads to a lack of energy and higher incidences of infection. Hence, my desire to sip some a few times a day for a natural boost of energy. 

10. As part of balancing the body's pH, apple cider vinegar creates an overall detoxification of the body. Research shows that it can help stimulate cardiovascular circulation and help detoxify the liver. 

11. This miracle vinegar helps to break up mucous throughout the body and cleanse the lymph nodes. Believe it or not, research suggests that apple cider vinegar can help with allergies because of its ability to reduce mucous and sinus congestion. When reducing the effects of allergies, it can also help stave off sinus infections and their related symptoms (sore throats and headaches).

12. This vinegar is rich in natural enzymes that can help rid your body of candida -- yeasts that are attributed to thrush in humans. Candida also is blamed for creating symptoms of fatigue, poor memory, sugar cravings, and yeast infections.

13. Though it might seem like an oxymoron to treat stomach acid with an acid-containing vinegar, there is research suggesting that apple cider vinegar works by correcting low acid, hence reducing heartburn. Natural remedy experts say you should begin to feel relief very shortly after taking a teaspoon of apple cider vinegar followed by a glass of water. Note that apple cider vinegar will not give relief if you have an ulcer.  

14. The use of apple cider vinegar is effective in repelling fleas on your pets. One part vinegar and one part water can be sprayed on your pets fur and rubbed in generously to the skin. Saturate the entire coat, and continue every day for a few days to a week. Any flea infestation will surely be gone. 

15. Apple cider vinegar will clean your toilets and have your bathroom smelling like apples! Just pour apple cider vinegar into the toilet, and allow it to sit overnight. It can also be used in dishwashers as a substitute for dish detergent. Mix 1/2 cup of apple cider vinegar with 1 cup water, and you can use this solution to clean microwaves, kitchen surfaces, windows, glasses and mirrors, too.  

As you can see, apple cider vinegar is a miracle product that cab be used in a multitude of ways. I highly recommend its use!

Lisa Mitchell

Stillness

Make time for stillness this holiday season for greatness always starts in silence.

My number One song this week

Somewhere Only We Know

I walked across an empty land
I knew the pathway like the back of my hand
I felt the earth beneath my feet
Sat by the river and it made me complete
Oh simple thing where have you gone?
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

I came across a fallen tree
I felt the branches of it looking at me
Is this the place we used to love?
Is this the place that I've been dreaming of?

Oh simple thing where have you gone?
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

And if you have a minute why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
Somewhere only we know?

Oh simple thing where have you gone?
I'm getting old and I need something to rely on
So tell me when you're gonna let me in
I'm getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

And if you have a minute why don't we go
Talk about it somewhere only we know?
This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
So why don't we go

This could be the end of everything
So why don't we go
Somewhere only we know?
Somewhere only we know

This could be the end of everything,
So why don't we go,
Somewhere only we know,
Somewhere only we know,
Somewhere only we know.

Say it to me NOW

                                                                I really love this song...

                                                             and this one too :)

Air Mata

 Air mata,
 jangan pernah takut pada air mata. peradaban zaman telah membuat kamu takut terhadap air mata
timbul semacam rasa bersalah pada diri mu, saat air mata mulai terjatuh kamu mu mulai merasa malu. Kamu mulai berpikir "apa kata orang lain?, aku lelaki dan aku menangis! itu terlihat feminim dan kekanakanakan, itu tidak seharusnya...... dan kamu membunuh sesuatu yang sedang tumbuh padamu

Air mata jauh lebih indah daripada apapun yang ada pada dirimu karna airmata adalah sesuatu "kelimpahan, luapan" air mata tidak selalu berasal dari kesedihan, terkadang air mata berasal dari kebahagiaan dan terkadang berasal dari kedamaian yang tak terhingga dan kadang berasal dari kegembiraan dan cinta.
bahkan air mata tak ada hubungannya dengan kesedihan ataupun kebahagiaan.

apapun yang menggugah hatimu dengan energi yang begitu besar yang tidak dapat kamu tampung lagi mengalirlah yang dinamakan 'Air mata'.

terimalah dengan kegembiraan, nikmati, sambut dan lewat air mata kamu akan tahu bagaimana cara berdoa

Kalau sampai waktunya nanti,
Kalau kita memang jodoh sejati,
Kirimlah bunga ini padaku kembali
Dan aku akan datang padamu. Aku janji!

What is the Shadow?
Debbie Ford says:
The shadow contains all the parts of ourselves that we try to hide, deny or suppress- that we judge as unacceptable.
Most of us expend huge amounts of energy trying to get rid of or control these unwanted aspects of ourselves.
We hope that by hiding or fixing our bad qualities we will have the peace, success and happiness we desire.
Most of us are convinced that we are flawed and inadequate so we become masters of disguise, and go to great lengths to hide our SHADOW from those around us – even from ourselves.

The result of turning our backs on our dark side?

A life that slips by only half lived.

Until we make peace with our shadow we will continue to be at war with ourselves.
And our outer world will mirror our inner struggle.

Until we feel authentic compassion for each and every aspect of ourselves, we will continue to draw forth experiences that mirror the negative feelings we have about ourselves.

Until we take back our power and forgive ourselves for being human we will attract people who push our buttons and reactivate our emotional wounds.

This is the benevolence of the Universe in action.

The whole world is a mirror of our own consciousness, and when we make peace with the disowned aspects of ourselves, we make peace with the world.

The Shadow Process is founded on the understanding that every quality, every emotion and every experience comes bearing great gifts.

When we receive the gifts of our dark side, something truly miraculous occurs.

Our wounds are transformed into wisdom and the parts of us we once believed to be our deepest flaws are revealed as our greatest assets.

Embracing our dark side also gives us a new found freedom to be with the darkness in OTHERS.



 

One and Only

well, this is really represent what's going on inside my mind right now, for you 'A'
oohh thanks adele, you have a briliant left brain hemisphere to express the feeling into word

You've been on my mind
I grow fonder every day,
Lose myself in time
Just thinking of your face
God only knows
Why it's taken me so long
To let my doubts go
You're the only one that I want

I don't know why I'm scared, I've been here before
Every feeling, every word, I've imagined it all,
You never know if you never try
To forgive your past and simply be mine

I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
Promise I'm worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I'm the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts

if I've been on your mind
You hang on every word I say
Lose yourself in time at the mention of my name
Will I ever know how it feels to hold you close?
And have you tell me whichever road I choose that you'll go

I don't know why I'm scared 'cause I've been here before
Every feeling, every word, I've imagined it all,
You'll never know if you never try
To forgive my past and simply be mine

I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
I promise I'm worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I'm the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts


(Nobody's perfect, trust me I've learned it)
I know it ain't easy, giving up your heart
(Nobody's perfect, trust me I've learned it)
I know it ain't easy, giving up your heart

So I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
I promise I'm worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I'm the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts
Come on and give me a chance
To prove that I'm the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts.

 

AVOCADO + LEMON + ICE CUBE = HEAVEN